Now that we’re “connected” with a therapist for my son (who both of us like!), we have taken the first medical step in transitioning: Stopping the flow. We had a good appointment with a kind and considerate staff, and knowledgeable and sensitive doctor at Strong Adolescent and Young Adult Medical Group. No worries about him taking birth control to stop the period, says the doc. No major health risks or anything like that.
I have to say, it’s strange. Strange in that some of it is so ordinary, like discussing types of birth control with a doctor. And some of it is so out of the realm of anything I ever thought I’d be doing, like discussing how soon my trans-son can start taking male hormones. (In most cases, 16 is the magic number.)
It’s not like any parent, at least none that I know, ever says, “Oh, I just can’t wait for the day you start taking testosterone!” to their young daughter. Mind you, I’m not saying it’s bad or good or anything. I mean, it’s fine. It’s great, actually, if this helps him be who he is. (Marvels of modern medicine and all that!) It’s just surreal.
We’ve all heard it said how no one is prepared for parenthood – all the struggles, the joys, the every-waking-moment of concern and effort and worry. But really? I mean, really! Where’s the freakin’ handbook on this one?